Males have dealt with pornography lightly... as if itís understandable because weíre male and filled with testosterone...and you know, itís got to have an outlet...Let me just say that if that is you, something is missing from your relationship to Christ. Not only will the sin lead you into sexual perversion, it will destroy your character, your confidence, your relationships...It is an old adage but I will repeat it here, "Sin takes you farther than you want to go, keeps you longer than you want to stay, costs you more than you want to pay. You cannot make a deal with the devil and come out on top.
Go to 1 Corinthians 6:13-16:
13 Meats for the belly, and the belly for meats: but God shall destroy both it and them. Now the body is not for fornication, but for the Lord; and the Lord for the body.
14 And God hath both raised up the Lord, and will also raise up us by his own power.
15 Know ye not that your bodies are the members of Christ? shall I then take the members of Christ, and make them the members of an harlot? God forbid.
16 What? know ye not that he which is joined to an harlot is one body? for two, saith he, shall be one flesh.
The body is not for fornication (pornos) but for the Lord. If a woman walks by and you "check her out", your eyes hit her rear-end and you think, "Boy, Iíd like to..." According to the Lord, you just did. In the eyes of God, He sees according to the thoughts and the intents of your heart. The moment you have any thought, He reads it. I am convinced of this because the moment I stepped out of my body, my thoughts were audible words. Your thoughts are read easily by God. Satan reads you as well. If he sees you look her over, he tells the demons to watch you and seize their opportunities to negotiate.
Pornography is nothing but fornication by proxy (substitution). Youíre substituting the real with the image. When you boot up your computer and you select pornography you have to pay for that encounter with money and more. When they bill your house you have to deceive and lie to just deal with the bill without your parents finding out. The Scripture says this:
Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body.
Flee porno...he that committeth pornography sins against his own body. It is a sexual sin against your own body. He says in 1 Corinthians 7:2, "Nevertheless, to avoid fornication..." How do you avoid it? Get married and have a wife. If you want to see a naked woman, get married.
We are sexual by nature but religion has always denied our humanity. Religion always denies the good things of God and the things that God has given us richly to enjoy (1 Tim. 6:17). God is not opposed to husbands and wives making love; He is opposed to fornication and pornography. Sex in marriage is recreational, itís pleasurable and itís fun. The marriage bed is undefiled.
Now, we have to face some issues. Paul said that every man should know how to possess his vessel unto sanctification. He said, "I keep under my body." In other words, he was saying, "I make my body come under, and keep it under subjection. Lest at any time, I should become a castaway, or rejected from the very thing I am preaching." This principle is of the manifest sons of God. I cannot preach or teach something and not do it. Thatís hypocrisy. The reason that we are having a lot of problems with our teenagers is because weíre facing that now. As I deal with a lot of our teenagers, I have to deal with the fact that they are angry at their parents because of their hypocrisy. This is not about that old adage, "Do as I say, not as I do." That is what causes rebellion among youth. We are the sons of God and the Word became manifest and dwelt among us. We are the living epistles, the Word has got to be made manifest among us. I want my children to know that I have a very loving amorous relationship with t heir mother. I want them to see it. I donít hide it from them. I donít flaunt it in a perverted way but Iím always loving on her around them. I want my girls to know that there is nothing wrong or unclean with making love to their husband.
There are three loves: agape, phileo, and eros. Spirit, soul and body. Both phileo and eros answer to agape. Christ was the first to use the word agape Ė the love of God Ė He is agape, not phileo or eros. It is the only true love that exists. It is not self-serving, self-seeking or self-mastery love. This love is the love of somebody else at your own expense. God so loved that He gave...He doesnít get. Phileo and eros are very self-centered in their root nature. Agape is not. If you get these out of their right order it changes things.
Let me show you why Paul said that he keeps his under subjection. It is the law of the temporal which could also be named the law of "repeat". The law is this: whatever you do with your body, you will have to do over and over again. It will never be enough. If you eat, you have to eat again; if you sleep, you have to sleep again...there is no end to it. True or not? Work out, brush your teeth, wash your hair...no matter what you do, youíll have to do it again. Youíll have to do it again and again and again. So, is it really fulfilling? No. The Scripture words it this way regarding a stand that Moses took , "...the pleasures of sin for a season;" The pleasure of sin is only for a moment... a season. But, is agape temporal or eternal? Agape lasts forever. You donít have to keep feeding it over and over again. It is the power of eternal zoe. We have eternal light, life and love Ė the three "Ls" of His divine nature. All three of those are eternal.
Although phileo can be temporal, it is also eternal Ė when it is sanctified. The first two times that Jesus asked Peter if he loved him, the word translated as love in English was the word agape. The third time Jesus asked Peter if he loved him the word He used was phileo. Peter, it is recorded, was grieved...Christ had found out his heart; his love was only phileo, and the Lord knowing that, knew also that Peter would betray him despite his profession of loyalty to the death. Only the Apostle John had a revelation of the agape of God Ė He was the only one that used that word. He was the disciple whom the Lord agapeo.(John 21:20) In all but one instance when the Scripture refers to John as the disciple whom Jesus loved, the word love was translated from agapao. In John 20:2 the word loved was translated from phileo. Jesus loved him eternally, from the spirit, but he loved something about his personality, as well. He was fond of John, he li ked his temperament and nature. Is that not true of all of us? We love all of our brothers and sisters but there are some that we just love in personality and like to be around. Thatís phileo. Itís very good but it can also be very self-serving. You choose your friends from those that are rich, from those that bless you the most...it goes on and on. However, there is also the "real" behind it. Phileo is dangerous...it can go in ungodly ways. Instead of waiting for God to give you a wife to love you, you love yourself. That is where the term "masturbation" comes from...it means to be self-serving, to master yourself. You young men, wait for your wife. Let her master your desire, your need, your drive.
This is how you keep under your body; this is how you possess your vessel. You know that it is temporal and you treat it as if it is temporal. You know that it has to repeat everything that it does. Treat it like it does and be wise in how you handle it and how things operate in your life. The body wants food and you give it way too much. Itís gluttony. The body wants sleep and you give it way too much. That is being a sluggard. In everything that you do, you have to sanctify it. "... this is the will of God,(concerning you) even your sanctification..."(1Thess 4:3). We should know how to sanctify this body, keep it sanctified and in the honor of God.. We donít overeat, we donít over-indulge, we donít over-anything. We keep our body under restraint at all times because, if you donít, it is the one that will demand what it wants again and again. There is no end to it. If you smoke marijuana, youíll do it again and again...you smoke "crack" once...then, youíre out all night long, always trying to find mo re until you get delivered from the power of serving your body and start serving the Lord! Then, you become motivated, not by sex, but by agape.
Everything that a man does is motivated by love Ė the love of God, the love of others or the love of self. Is money the root of all evil? Or, does the Scripture say that it is the love of it? Man is motivated toward money because he loves it. Does he agape it? Of course not. Does he phileo it? eros it? Did you know that there are men that get physically turned on by holding a lot of money in their hands? Did you know that cars are used as sex objects? How in the world do you name a car, "The sexiest car of the year"? Yet, people get in that car and feel, "sexy". It is incredible but these things effect certain males..
There are two types of males here that are in trouble. There are those that over-indulge in sex and those that are malakos (soft, tending toward the feminine). We often wear military garb here. Why do we do that? Some get offended by it here but they have no idea of the spirit of what we are trying to do. Are we a militia group? No. Wearing military attire is an apostolic strategy to bring forth manliness, to bring out "maleness" in your behavior and the aggressiveness that is manly. We dressed these men in something opposite to a dress so that we would help bring something out in them. It is a strategy that we still use to bring out maleness. It is a prophetic statement to principalities that we are warriors. You are a warrior, a military man, trained to take on and combat Lucifer.
If you are going to be a soldier in the Body of Christ, in the war of God, youíre going to have to endure some hardness. Young men have to learn how to endure some things. Thatís why we take them and put them in sports. Weíre doing it and theyíre doing it in a different way. Every sport that we get involved in is a contact sport. Our boys have got to endure getting banged up some and some roughness. They come out loving it because they get in touch with what is their true nature...the Zakar! the Iysh! Then, heís glorifying God, heís not afraid of demons, heís not fearful, heís not afraid of the dark. Heíll say to demons, "I rebuke you, in the name of Jesus!" Youíll hear them... there are little guys doing it now...laying hands on the sick, casting out devils, rebuking them at night.
Listen, weíve got a good life, brothers. If you get married at age twenty, young men, you have three hundred and sixty-five days a year for approximately sixty to sixty-five years to have sex with your wife. How many times can you make love to your wife, if you want to, at a rate of just once per day? Youíre looking at twenty-two thousand times! Donít you think thatís enough? Sure, it is. Youíre looking at reality here. This is not about God trying to withold from us. If you want sexual pleasure, fun and recreation...talk to your wife.
This is not a time of pride or embarrassment; itís a time of cleansing. What will destroy your walk with God is if you hide it. You will be able to sanctify and cleanse it, if you are honest about it. We have to be cleansed. If you have any problem with pornography or fornication at all, confess it and pray. All weíre going to do is pray for you. You may say, "I really donít look into it but it bothers me. I feel drawn to it." You may not look at it but you feel drawn all the time...thatís a power, thereís a power to it. Weíre going to break the power of this. Itís all about power, tonight. Itís not about pride, itís about power. Itís about how God anointed Jesus Christ with the Holy Ghost and power, who went about doing good and healing all that were oppressed by the devil...(Acts 10:38) Before I left the house tonight my wife asked me if she could pray for me. What she prayed was for you...that God would anoint me for you, to break the yoke of this unclean spirit. I am encouraging you, right now, that you break this power over your life. Weíre all going to pray for that anointing. You pray for it. I am going to pray.
Father, in the name of Jesus, I break the power of this unclean spirit. I break the power, not just the fruit of it. The Lord Jesus is the Master of our bodies. Sever the root, right now. Say, I no longer make contact with pornography. My body is not for fornication, my body is for the Lord! Father, we bring our bodies to you right now and ask you to deliver our bodies from the power of sexual sin, sexual perversion, sexual uncleanness. I ask you, God, to deliver this body right here...cleanse your sons from sexual overactiveness, from the imaginations, from image worship, the picture-pleasuring that takes place. I rebuke you, Lucifer, in the name of Jesus! You unclean spirit, you are cursed this night! You have no place! Out! in the name of Jesus! Out! of every male who desires to walk with and in the presence of the Living God! The power of this is broken, in Jesus Christís name! Father, we thank you for it now. I want to thank you that this will no longer be a torment to these young men. They are free from it, sanctified, fit for the Masterís use and prepared for every good work. In the name of Jesus, Father, thank You. It is an hour of deliverance. Thank You now, Father, that they walk away from it. Let these young men be sanctified.
Thank God for the power of the blood of Jesus. Youíve been delivered by the blood of Jesus from the power of it. Young men, I am sorry to say that in this day you are going to see womenís nakedness everywhere...Youíre not going to avoid it but you can avoid the power of it.
You young men, youíre not going to go crazy. Youíll be fine. Youíre not going to explode. Get involved in life. Your day will come...you will marry and you will get all of the loving that you want in life.
I am encouraging you men to throw away the fantasies of your mind and embrace the realities of Christ. Every woman has the same parts. How many of the same thing do you need to see in life? Letís go on with life a little more sober and controlled. Amen?.
Young men, do what the Scripture says, forget your pride, and go to someone in authority over you for help when you are struggling. Do you think that this is all about divinity?...that God just thinks that we are all just divine spirit beings? Do we have bodies and do we have natural desires? Do we have sexual desires? I will tell you this as I have told the teenaged boys : God is not opposed to sex Ė He made it to feel good. If sex were just for procreation (to have children), it wouldnít have had to feel good. He intended for you to enjoy sex, but in your time and season. When you are married, you can enjoy it all. You can wait for your time. The Lord is with you to do it.